So there’s something that you don’t “feel” like doing. The pressure builds as the resistance grows. The tension and anxiety gather momentum. It seems like the inertia deepens and it just gets harder and harder to “make” yourself do what YOU decided needs to be done. Maybe it’s getting out the front door to exercise. Or it’s that talk you need to have with your friend.
How to overcome the inertia and take action? Change the “rules of the game”. There is a hidden assumption or belief that is keeping you from moving forward. And here it is.
You think you have to “feel” like it and so you try to reason with yourself and talk yourself into it…you try to “motivate” yourself. The new rule? MOTIVATION IS NOT REQUIRED. You realize that you don’t HAVE to feel like it. You don’t have to want to do it. You don’t have to be motivated. You just Do it! Yes, there’s that old Nike admonition “Just Do it”….but it’s based on the understanding that you do things you don’t feel like doing ALL THE TIME.
So, you get in your car. You’re thinking “I don’t feel like going to work today”…while you are turning the key in the ignition or walking out the door. You know you’re going to work because “not going is not an option”. You have to pay your bills. This may not be your example, but you get the idea. It’s not that hard to do what you believe and assume has to be done. The agonizing and second guessing and arguing with yourself doesn’t even arise.
So if you establish a new rule that Motivation is not Required, then you don’t have to feel like it:-) You just do it as a CHOICE…consciously, deliberately. You just decided to do it, and that’s the end of the discussion. Because whether you are tired, don’t have the energy or the motivation is simply beside the point! It would be nice (and often you will feel like it once you overcome the inertia and start), but it’s really not required. It’s more of a luxury than anything,
And there you have it! Easy peasy:-)
Be persistent with your practice and you will find that the tension and anxiety evaporate! Start with something that you are finding yourself just a little reluctant to do. And build on that.This is powerful, effective and it will take the fight out of that thing you are avoiding, resisting, or dreading. Life becomes “Not a Problem”…begins to fill with ease
To Your Success…
Michael